January
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Coaching impact on the family is sometime not recognized. Was called to help a manager who was not accomplishing things that their boss the President of the company needed done. I spent several hours and several sessions both face to face and on the phone with the individual.

I did not establish the first rule of coaching-do you want to change? Essentially the manager even at times almost in tears, felt that he didn’t want to change, liked the way he was and let things fall where they may.

Always a part of coaching is creating life balance. He did not help his wife with the two small twin boys. She also worked full time outside the home, but he saw no reason to help her out. After several discussions about this, he agreed to try to improve in the home life area by sharing household chores and being home more often. He reported back to me that his marriage was much improved even as he joked “we haven’t made much progress at work have we?”

Long story short, I could not help the manager in his professional life and he began seeking other employment. He left the company but we were still friends and he stayed in contact. The president of the company and I both felt we had failed him. End of story- we thought. Ran into his wife a few months later. With trepidation, I approached her and we began talking about him and what had happened. Suddenly, out of the blue she said “I know that your coaching did not save my husband’s job, but you saved our marriage. Thank you for that.”

I called the president of the company the next day and told her the story. She almost cried. That was the best money I ever spent then, she said.

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