People have different ’styles’ of communication. Some people keep things in and others blurt out the first thing that comes to their mind.
Do you think one of these styles is wrong…. or is one of these better than the other?
Or how about this situation…
How much information do you need prior to making a decision? Do you already know the answer to the question prior to person even finishing their question. Or are you the type of person that needs stacks of data, plus some more…
Again, which is right and which is wrong.
Well… it depends on the situation.
If you are at a party and want to be the star of the show and bunches of fun… say the first thing that comes to your mind. Whereas, when you are in the board room… obviously you should weigh every word very carefully.
I used these extreme examples to illustrate a point.
If it makes sense to change your communication style depending upon these extreme situations, why don’t when you are discussing items with people one on one.
For example, the gal that always talks about numbers, facts, figures, and data in general is probably not real interested in the human side of the story. If you try to hold a conversation with her about the impact that it will have on people… then you might as well talk to the wall because he is not hearing you.
Or what about the other guy that always has the good story to tell about his family, his crazy uncle, or what he did last night. If you try to approach this person and just start talking about work… you have lost him too.
You need to understand your style.
How do you approach people? Do you command a presence? Do you ask a lot of questions?
Let me give you this real life example…
I was working with a facility manager of small company trying to help setup his organization. This person had previously succeeded at another facility because he knew the manufacturing process inside and out. You could not tell him on anything! He was a task master who drove the heck out of people. You could not get anything technical past him.
I still remember the first day that he took over the facility. He told me ‘Michael, I figure in 3 months… I should have this place completely turned around and printing money.’
Now, what was interesting was the plant had made some significant gains over the last 18 months but the business still demanded more. Next interesting point was this new manager did not know anything about the process.
After the first week… yes the first week of being there he decided to make a change in personnel. He wanted to shake things up a bit. So he went to the Manufacturing Manager, who was a very technical and quiet guy to have a discussion.
This Manufacturing Manager had (internal) passion for his job and done some great things at the facility. But he would hardly ever voice his concerns immediately. Basically, he was a non-confrontational type of person.
So, here is what happened. Facility Manager tells Production Manager that he wanted him to become the Lead Engineer for the plant. As the Lead Engineer he would continue to make process improvements for the business and help the team win.
After this communication, I asked the Facility Manager how it went.
The Facility Manager said it was great. He further commented that it was a good move for the employee because he just did not have the guts for the Manufacturing Manager position. I can still remember this line… ‘I need someone that will drive these guys to perform’
I asked… ‘A 48% productivity improvement in 18 months wasn’t sufficient evidence of this?’
He was dumbfounded. He wasn’t sure why I would ask such a question. Then just to put him over the top I asked… ‘So how did you know it went well with the employee’
His reply ‘Well, he smiled, shook my hand, and said thank you for the conversation.’
Finally… I had to ask ‘So if he is truly non-confrontational like you say - why would you expect him to say anything else but to take it. You have lost this employee forever. You might as well give him a package’
Less than one year later the Lead Engineer left for another job. I bet he started looking the day after that conversation.
Know thyself… and know how to communicate will help you improve your Leadership